By Dr. Ndidi Ifunanya, YeyeNews.com, September 7, 2021
Question: Hi, my name is Jessica. My Nigerian boyfriend goes mad when other men look at me. He said his ex-wife cheated on him, but I don’t understand why he flips each time a man looks at me. I don’t believe that it is my fault that I look good. Or is it?
–——Jessica, NY.
Answer: Oh, Jessica. His ex-wife cheated on him. Get that? It has become his big thing. Somewhere inside him, he feels incompetent. And the cheating has diminished him. And any sign of another cheating coming his way will make him a wimp. In Nigeria, where he comes from and where his head still is, it is the height of humiliation for a man’s wife to cheat. It is, of course, okay for the husband to cheat on the wife. In fact, what you call cheating here is celebrated as a man’s display of prowess. So you lost out as soon as men began to look at you. You reminded him of a bad dream. A Nigerian proverb says that if a man is stung by a bee, he begins to fear even the housefly.
—–Dr. Ndidi Ifunanya
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